I am a type of person who will think first about the others before thinking myself. And it felt good to know that I am being of help to other people even though they don't really need help. It's a good thing right? But there could be some instances that it could be a bad thing. One of those is that people who knows me might abuse the goodwill that I am giving.
This does not apply to me only. It can happen to all people. But then, I realize that, sometimes, being selfish can be a good thing too. I took my time taking notes on what it could happen to me and I found at least three things on why being selfish sometimes can also be a good thing.
1.) Getting A Time For Yourself
Sometimes, saying no to favors and requests can bring you a good thing. Though you need to be polite and turning down those requests. Saying no to favors can bring you an extra time on what you want to do with yourself. You can read more or relax more. It's not really a bad thing and you don't need to fell guilty about turning down a request. If they can't understand it, them let them, they will in time, when they experience as to the reason why you turned them down.
2.) Leaving out the Things That makes you Unhappy
Admit it, sometimes there are favors that we feel that we're not so happy about. Well, time to turn those down too. Make yourself happy with only the things you really want to. Another example is, being in a relationship. If you feel that it is not working anymore, then, try to find time to make yourself happy. It's selfish in a way, but how can we love other people if we don't love ourselves first, right?
3.) Find What Your Passion Really is
Life is all about searching what could make us happy. If Being selfish can bring you closer to the things that make you happy, then why not do it in regular? I mean, it's a good thing if we can actually give time for ourselves. It's not a bad thing to really turn down requests. Specially if we know that, the person asking for that certain request can actually do that thing.
As pointed above, if being selfish can bring yourself to love yourself, then why not do it? People won't judge you for turning down request this time and explaining them why in a polite manner. If it means getting time for yourself more, then they can definitely understand it. Do not worry if they going think otherwise. It's going to be their problem and not ours. Then go find your happiness and love yourself this time will you?
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