The Complete Beginner's Guide to Moving On

Everything has its own end. And as the famous adage from this year says, “There is no such thing as Forever” which is true because everything has its finish line. School year has its end, even the semesters has endings, especially for the year. And one of the most painful endings is the end of a relationship from the person you love.

A break up can really be hard and it usually sticks out to you for months. But what if there is a guide for you to be able to move on? Yes, there are a lot, but coming from my personal experience, I assure you that you’ll be moving n faster than you had to from your past.

1.) Know How to Accept Things

I always say to myself when I end up disappointed over things or over people that I should accept it because part of what happened is my fault and should deal over with. Accepting things are different from forgetting it. There is a huge distinction between the two. So, if ever you broke up with your boyfriend, don’t forget him or the things you do, accept everything that happened and smile.

2.) Create Your Own Space for a While

It is a hard time, I know. And making yourself distance can be a good thing too. If you want to make a space and time for yourself to think about things and stuff on what happened, that is good too. But if you are alone, don’t do stupid things like hurt yourself. You won’t get through the tough time. And don’t even think about the “What if”. The Past is passed and you cannot go back through time, so it’ll just be wasting your time and your effort. Instead, think about the things you will do, what you will enjoy and what could the future bring to you.

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3.) Cry and then Laugh

Call your trusted friend and tell her what hurts you and tell her what you think of today and they cry to her. It’s not a weakness when you cry. It actually makes you stronger after releasing all the negative emotions you have on your brain and chest. Cry it all out and let it all go. After that, smile a little each day until you realize that you are already laughing and stronger than before.

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4.) Focus!

What are your life goals? Is it to spend your time the rest of your life crying over a person who can’t see your worth? Focus; don’t ever play the victim too long. Stand up and reorganize your life and work yourself so you can achieve your goals.

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5) Next Time, Play it Smart

Yes, you were hurt, but it isn’t the reason to lock your heart to the rest of the person in the world. Love again! But this time, do it smart. When I say smart, you don’t need to cheat on the person, but instead, be one of the captains that will make your relationship last to almost forever. Don’t just be the passenger just like before, but be one of the people who can control it. And most importantly, prepare yourself for any sudden changes. Even if you feel that you are still going stronger each day, just prepare. After all, you won’t know what tomorrow will bring.

I am not a love expert, but experience taught me well and I have taken life notes to be able to move on a little faster than before. After all, the joy of being in love as well as the pain from being broken is what makes the flavor of life exciting.

Accept things, laugh and love again. These are my main tip on moving on. How about you? What do you do to move on from a painful breakup? Share your stories at the comment and let’s talk about it.